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I would like to make the following suggestions (by no means original to me) for conversation on a forum:
In general, there is no need to post a comment whose main effect will be to offend others or to post a comment whose main purpose is to point out that one has been offended.
(I hope that it may helpful be to link to this post sometimes from other threads. I would encourage such links to be made only by third parties and that replies to such links be made here.)
Specifically, if I spout nonsense, please everybody do their utmost to set me straight. It might hurt my ego, but it is not an offense. It is the whole point of discussing stuff with you all.
I feel this is the sort of thing one can only learn from one’s mother…
Really only because it rhymed and was tangentially relevant…
Seriously, guys, it’s a simple situation: we want a civil atmosphere here, but we also have a project running here that we don’t want to be jeopardized.
So the point here is not to be an all-feel-well-chat-club by all means but to support the Lab. If that involves criticism, then this criticism should be voiced, civilly. And heard.
Strictly speaking, non-technical discussion is out of bounds here whether offensive or not. And purely technical discussion cannot really be offensive. If it is taken as such, that’s a problem on the side of the recipient.
I naturally agree with Kevin and Urs. I also hope that Kevin will stay, since I really appreciate his contributions here.
And pointing out technical mistakes is not an offense, but the whole point of having a technical discussion.
Right. There’s a difference between saying ‘This is incorrect, because of such and such technical reason.’ and ‘This is incorrect, because you apparently don’t know the first thing about the subject.’. The first of my suggestions should ban the second of these but not the first.
And the point of my second suggestion is that one should not respond ‘How dare you say such a thing?’ to either of these statements. One should instead respond to the technical points of the first and ignore the second entirely.
The real danger is people going back and forth. The Forum can be useful with an isolated comment in violation of either of my suggestions, but not with a conversation of comments in alternate violation of them.
I think that one is fully justified in making the second comment. It is not meant as an insult. It’s the hard truth that one has to face sometimes. Whether or not it was harshly worded doesn’t mean that the point there isn’t valid. In the situation you’re referencing (where the second comment was made, for all intents and purposes), I think that one should take the criticism to heart and thank the person for his/her honesty. I think that comments of the second kind are fine when confronted with the inane attempts of people to ask questions that are far beyond their depth.
It is not meant as an insult.
That’s why my suggestion says ‘Try not to insult others.’ rather than ‘Don’t intend to insult others.’.
I think that comments of the second kind are fine when confronted with the inane attempts of people to ask questions that are far beyond their depth.
That is where you and I rather profoundly disagree. However intended, I cannot imagine any circumstances under which the second comment would actually produce a beneficial result in a discussion. Certainly, such comments have not produced benificial results on this Forum in the past.
Well, there is no need to go on and on here, so I won’t any more. The bottom line for me is the result, not the intent.
That is where you and I rather profoundly disagree. However intended, I cannot imagine any circumstances under which the second comment would actually produce a beneficial result in a discussion.
I can give you an example (it was directed at me, and I took it in stride) from Math Overflow.
The fact is, however, that I know a lot more algebraic geometry than Ian knows category theory, and even though I was totally shut down, I didn’t make a big fuss about it.
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